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Members of a family will disagree.
If disagree means disrespect, there is trouble.
Disagree does not have to become disrespect.
Disagree must not equal disrespect.
If only—if couples could hear this before they get married.
If only—if married couples could get this before they get in trouble—trouble just because they assume disagree equals disrespect whenever there is conflict.
Saying ‘yes’ and ‘repeat after me’ at the altar may be too late, meaningless, minds a million miles away.
Some things have to be decided before marriage.
Some things need to be promised, spoken, written before marriage.
1- Decide to be faithful in the marriage* until death.
2- Decide to love the wife*, respect the husband*, until death.
3- Decide to not let disagreement endanger faithfulness, love, and respect.
4- Decide to put disagreement in a cage, where it can’t touch the marriage with doubt about faithfulness, love, and respect.
5- Decide whether to feed the disagreement in the cage and make it stronger—or dismantle the disagreement. Save any useful parts and throw the others away.
6- Decide that unresolved disagreements will be decided by the husband—already decided together to not let disagreement endanger faithfulness, love, and respect.
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Most couples getting married—caught up in love—dream and imagine that faithfulness for both*, and love for the wife*, and respect for the husband*, will fall in place and last forever because they care so much for each other, now.
Now—hmmm !
Nobody knows what is ahead after ‘now’ is over.
Rarely ? or Never ? does ‘now’ last forever !
So, what is a couple to do that don’t have a clue ?
So, what is a couple to think when they don’t think about this ?
So, what is a couple to talk about when they don’t want to talk about it ?
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*”What God has joined together, let no one separate.”
*”Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her . . . Let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself.”
*”Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord . . . Let the wife see that she respects her husband.”
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Now, if you want to learn more about your own heart, to be successful in life and in marriage, there is more, and then a lot more, in The Book from the Creator of life and Inventor of marriage.
Ephesians 5—Read slowly and carefully.
Matthew 19:4-6—Blueprint for marriage.
Please read FIRE PREVENTION on this site.
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