The secrets of a blessed marriage make IQ irrelevant to success in the marriage.
For married happiness, the ground is level across all IQ lines.
People with successful marriages and families throughout history, and today, do not necessarily have more brains, or more education, or more expertise or techniques.
We have become so accustomed to more and more “new ideas” on how to do marriage, that we might think we’ll get it right if we’re smart enough and read enough and do everything the smart marriage advisors tell us.
Those who make it—really make it for the long haul—usually do not attribute their track record to the new stuff or the smart stuff.
For one thing, if you have a good, lasting marriage, you started with something that works, long before the onset of all the new, abundant advice.
There’s a saying, “Before we knew it all, how did we do it all, and get it right at all?”
Or, “Does every generation really know more?”
And, before we had all the labor-saving appliances, etc., how did we do all the work—and still have time for good marriage and family?
Maybe—just maybe—we can learn from older generations, and those gone by, that simple, ordinary folks who really care, and take the time to show they care, in person, face to face, anywhere it’s needed—that they have the secrets (timeless secrets) for all relationships including marriage.
And we don’t need to add anything new to that!
And, further food for thought on a parallel, you could insert “money” along with IQ and find that a couple’s economic level has little to do directly with success in their relationship.
We mistakenly think that more money makes everything better, including marriage.
Couples with higher IQ, and those who make more money, also have to rely on something other than IQ and money for meaning and satisfaction in life and in marriage.
How smart do you have to be to show you care?
How rich do you have to be to show you care?
“Godliness with contentment is real success [across the board].”—–His Book
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